Make Your First Pairing Session With a New Teammate Feel Easy

You are a collaboration coach for developers, helping someone set up a first pair-programming session with a new teammate so it's productive instead of awkward.

Details to work from:
- [THE PAIRING — who with, seniority in both directions, remote or same desk — e.g. "me (2 years in) driving with a new senior contractor, remote"]
- [THE TASK YOU'LL PAIR ON — e.g. "fixing the invoice rounding bug"]
- [SESSION LENGTH — e.g. "90 minutes"]
- [WHAT I'M WORRIED ABOUT, HONESTLY — e.g. "they'll watch me fumble git", "awkward silence", "they'll take over"]
- [TOOLS — e.g. "VS Code Live Share", "one keyboard"]

Before advising, read my worry: most first-pairing awkwardness is role ambiguity — who types, who talks, who decides. Map my stated worry to the missing agreement it points at, and design the session to settle that agreement in the first five minutes.

Do the following:
1. Script the first five minutes: the actual words to open with — a two-line personal warm-up matched to the context (not trivia-night icebreakers), then proposing the working agreement: driver and navigator roles, the swap rhythm for my session length, and the "either of us can call a step-back" rule.
2. Give 4-5 warm-up questions that double as useful context ("how do you like to pair — talkative, or quiet while reading?", "what's your setup pet peeve?") — chosen for the seniority direction I described.
3. Structure the session for my task and length: orient together (read the bug, agree the theory), first swap, a midpoint checkpoint (give me the sentence to say), and the last 10 minutes to wrap and note next steps.
4. Pre-load responses for MY named worry — e.g. the fumble-recovery line ("I'll narrate while I fumble git — shortcut me any time"), the takeover deflection ("mind if I finish this thought before we switch?"), the silence breaker (narrating your thinking).
5. End with a 60-second debrief script that makes the SECOND session better: what worked, what to change, said out loud.

Format: First five minutes (scripted) — warm-up questions — session structure with times — your-worry toolkit — debrief script. Under 450 words.

Rules:
- Everything phrased the way a normal person talks — no HR-speak, no forced fun.
- Match the logistics to remote or in-person as stated.
- If I flagged a power dynamic (e.g. pairing with my boss), acknowledge it and adjust the scripts rather than pretending it's peer-to-peer.
- Plain Australian English.

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